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WALLS OF SILENCE
SECTION 9
TITLE 9.1 A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE TO RECOGNIZING PATTERNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE
By Amani Chiari
Emotional abuse is a profoundly damaging form of violence that often precedes physical battering. Its insidious nature lies in its ability to undermine the victim’s sense of self-worth, reality, and security over time. Emotional abuse is characterized by repetitive, targeted behaviors designed to dominate and control the victim psychologically, socially, and economically. Below is an exploration of the acts that form the foundation of emotional abuse, each a devastating blow to the victim’s well-being.
1. Hostile Jokes About Women’s Habits and Faults
Abusers often use humor as a weapon, masking insults under the guise of jokes. These remarks perpetuate stereotypes and demean the victim, eroding her confidence and reinforcing his superiority.
2. Ignoring the Victim’s Feelings
By dismissing or invalidating her emotions, the abuser negates her experiences, fostering a sense of invisibility and helplessness.
3. Withholding Approval as Punishment
This act weaponizes affection and validation, leaving the victim perpetually seeking an approval that is strategically withheld to maintain control.
Subpart B
In the case of intimate non-personal abusers, where the targeted individual is systematically forced into the relationship and has not chosen a personal connection with the abuser—therefore, has no interest in affection or personal validation from them—the abuser may weaponize the approval of processes, both legal and otherwise. This can include creating delays, issuing illegal denials and disqualifications, assigning additional tasks or steps without legal jurisdiction, and demanding excessive personal information or contact without proper authority. These tactics are used to manipulate the victim into adopting behaviors that mimic seeking affection and validation—behaviors they do not otherwise desire—under the threat of punishment or loss of basic human necessities, assets, or protections such as housing, employment, access to legal recourse, or the freedom to operate a vehicle if they do not engage in intimate personal behavior such as forced friendship, romantic behaviors or sexual contact.
4. Yelling at the Victim
Raising one’s voice is a common intimidation tactic designed to instill fear, assert dominance, and silence dissent.
5. Labeling with Insulting Terms
The abuser uses derogatory labels such as "crazy" "stupid" “Irresponsible” to destabilize the victim’s sense of identity and worth, often causing her to question her own intelligence and sanity.
6. Personalized Insults
Tailored insults are wielded to exploit the victim’s vulnerabilities and inflict maximum psychological harm, leaving lasting emotional scars.
7. Public Humiliation
By shaming the victim in front of family or peers, the abuser isolates her socially and strips away her dignity in the eyes of others.
8. Social and Geographical Isolation
Abusers often sever the victim’s support systems, sometimes relocating the family to remote areas to ensure she remains cut off from friends and family.
9. Blaming the Victim for the Abuser’s Failures
This tactic shifts responsibility for the abuser’s shortcomings onto the victim, fostering guilt and self-blame.
10. Threats of Violence
The abuser threatens physical harm to the victim or their loved ones, creating a climate of perpetual fear and compliance.
11. Undermining the Victim’s Abilities
By attacking her competence as a mother, lover, or worker, the abuser chips away at her self-confidence and independence.
12. Demanding Undivided Attention
Resentment toward children or other priorities is used to demand constant focus on the abuser, fostering jealousy and competition within the family.
Subpart B
Intimate non-personal abusers often intentionally foster jealousy and competition between themselves and the targeted individual as a form of control and coercion. The goal is to compel the victim to provide personal affection and validation to the abuser—acts that serve as tools of humiliation and degradation from which the abuser derives emotional and/or sexual gratification.
Additionally, the abuser may attempt to incite jealousy and competition between the targeted individual and members of their personal support network, whether family or otherwise. In essence, the abuser works to create dissension in any relationship the victim might turn to for support, validation, or happiness—thereby increasing the victim's dependence on the abuser and requirement to provide undivided attention on them.
See Number 3, Subpart B for more on how this is achieved in intimate non-personal relationships.
13. Disclosing Affairs
Boasting about infidelity inflicts emotional pain and asserts dominance, reinforcing the abuser’s perceived control over the relationship.
Subpart B
1. Intimate non-personal abusers will often disclose private information they obtain about the targeted individual's personal affairs to others in order to diminish the victim’s sense of control and security within their personal affairs to increase force reliance on the abuser and inflict emotional pain and sense of vulnerability .
2. Intimate non-personal abuser may reveal or exaggerate their connection to the targeted individual when speaking to third parties—such as individuals or agencies—to reinforce their perceived authority, knowledge and connection to the victim for the purpose of discrediting their character. This maneuver decreases supportive outlets, reinforcing the abuser’s perceived control over the relationship.
3. Intimate non-personal abuser may disclose their relationship to individuals or agencies to make themselves appear more powerful and to prevent the victim from seeking support from those people or organizations—reinforcing the abuser’s perceived control over the targeted individual.
14. False Accusations of Infidelity
Unfounded accusations isolate the victim further by portraying her as untrustworthy, despite her lack of freedom or desire to engage in affairs.
Subpart B
Intimate non-personal abusers will almost always circulate false accusations about the targeted individual/victim’s character, behavior, and actions—portraying them as untrustworthy, despite the victim not engaging in that conduct or behavior, and it not being reflective of their character. This maneuver places the victim in a defensive position, forcing them to first prove they are trustworthy, innocent, or deserving—before they can even reach the point of requesting support, protection, or correction of the intimate non-personal individual abusing them.
See Plausible Deniability for further detail.
15. Silent Treatment
The abuser’s calculated silence communicates rejection and punishment, creating an emotional void that destabilizes the victim.
16. Threats Involving Children
By threatening harm to or custody over children, the abuser manipulates the victim’s maternal instincts and sense of security.
17. Dependency Enforced Through Economic Control
Economic abuse renders the victim financially dependent, depriving her of opportunities to escape by either forbidding her to work or sabotaging her employment.
18. Denying the Victim’s Identity and Values
By dismissing her heritage, beliefs, or personal history, the abuser invalidates her sense of self, contributing to a loss of identity.
19. Displays of Violent Power
Actions such as hitting walls or breaking items, especially sentimental items are messages of dominance, signaling that harm to the victim could be next.
20. Threatening or Abusing Pets
Harming animals sends a chilling message: the abuser has no limits, and the victim could be next.
21. Threatening Suicide
Manipulation through threats of self-harm traps the victim in the relationship by fostering guilt and fear.
22. Obsessively Cleaning Weapons
The abuser’s deliberate display of weapons serves as a silent but menacing threat to the victim’s life and safety.
23. Direct Threats to Life
Explicitly threatening to kill the victim or her children instills terror, making escape feel impossible.
24. Destroying Self-Esteem
The cumulative effect of emotional abuse is a shattered sense of self-worth, leaving the victim feeling powerless, unlovable, and incapable of independence.
Conclusion: Emotional abuse is a systematic, deliberate, and devastating assault on the victim’s mind and spirit. The patterns outlined here reveal a clear strategy of domination and control, often escalating to physical violence if left unchecked. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step in breaking free and reclaiming one’s life. If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse, resources are available to help. No one deserves to endure such treatment, and support is within reach.
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Subpart 1. Subject Specific to "Surviving Don Klyberg"
Of the 24 common act of a pattern of emotional abusers, chief onsite property manager Rick Newmann has subjected me to 11 of those acts on a regular, daily, bases over the course of a year and five months.
In this case, the dynamic between the abuser and the targeted victim was shaped by culturally specific factors rooted in Minnesota, as well as the structural nuances of their roles—specifically, the foundation of a property manager–tenant relationship. This type of dynamic is identified as an intimate non-personal relationship—as the two cohabitate at the same property and must interact for the purpose of housing.
Additionally, the color blue is used throughout to highlight several of the 24 common behaviors associated with emotional abuse. In this context, blue specifically marks actions taken by city officials in direct support of the offenders, Rick Newmann and Don Klyberg. For a clear example, see the conduct of City Inspector Steve Carson.
I will refer to this document when in addressing emotional abuse during the process of property management throughout this exposé.
Subpart 2. The Definition Nuances
“Nuances are subtle distinctions or variations in meaning, appearance, sound, or feeling that may not be immediately obvious but can be important. They often refer to the delicate qualities that add depth and complexity to a subject.” — Merriam Webster
Subpart 3. Nuance of Emotional Abuses Deployed by Rick Newmann
The Persistent Pattern of Emotional Abuse (Nuances) Explanation
Rick Newmann’s actions demonstrate a calculated and ongoing pattern of Intimate Non-Personal abuse designed to erode the victim’s autonomy and dignity.
This behavior fits the profile of a serial abuser who systematically uses psychological, emotional, physical and financial tactics to dominate his victim over time—a groomer.
Rick Newmann displayed the tell-tale sign of long-term abuser rather than isolated acts of misconduct from the beginning. Emotional abuse was a tool in the groomer's tool box. It always comes back to sex in my gender-based discrimination (sexual harassment) claim against Don Klyberg and his associated, tenant-based property management employee's Anthony Anderson and Rick Newmann.
Newmann didn't use sex as a means of seeking physical pleasure through contact but instead derived extreme, perverse satisfaction from committing the ultimate humiliation and violation of a target's personal boundaries.
His self-satisfaction stemmed from exercising power and control, reinforcing his distorted ideology of "male privilege"—a chronically demonstrated belief that he must present himself as the strongest or "alpha" among men.
Meanwhile, women have no value at all—Simply based on their God-given gender. Furthermore, women should not upset Rick Newmann by demonstrating otherwise, who is constantly surveilling them.
Any attempt to thrive in self-sufficiency and independence prompts him to impose consequences aimed at disrupting joy, destroying stability, and eroding self-esteem—relentlessly; over the course of a year and five months.
From the outset, Newmann’s behavior—according to the victim—reflected signs of deeply rooted low self-esteem. Precautions were taken early on to discourage both Newmann and his guest, his alleged girlfriend Sarah Doe, from initiating any personal contact or relationship with the subject of this exposé. These efforts included relocating to a more distant unit and paying an additional $50 per month in rent to maintain physical and personal distance. Despite these measures, Newmann and Doe—often under the influence of substances—persisted in aggressively pursuing the victim, disregarding all attempts to establish boundaries.
See Section 9 Title 9.0 Profile of An Abuser.
Subpart 3. Part B: The Persistent Pattern of Emotional Abuse (Nuances) Acts
1. Weaponized Pet Names
Newmann used unsolicited pet names such as “Sunshine” and “Beautiful” to degrade and insult, despite knowing the victim wanted no contact—sexual or otherwise. These terms were wielded not as compliments but as tools to assert control and signal that he viewed her resistance as irrelevant.
2. Phone Harassment
The emotional abuse escalated with persistent phone harassment. Over a four month period with a new effort approximately every two weeks, Newmann bombarded the victim with coercive and manipulative messages, further attempting to push her into a submissive role by exploiting false niceties as precursors to threats of aggression.
3. Symbolic Domination via. Property Theft (the Stolen Grill)
When phone harassment failed to achieve his goal, Newmann stole the victim’s grill and prominently displayed it on the hood of his truck, parked in clear view of her bedroom window.
This act was not merely theft; it was a symbolic assertion of ownership over her space and autonomy. The placement of the grill implied that to reclaim it, she would need to approach him—a trap designed to provoke confrontation with an opportunity for Newmann to overtly degrade, publicly humiliate and end stability via. termination of Residential Lease Agreement as Newmann blames victim for harming him. Newmann continued this behavior over a four-month period and never returned or replaced the stolen grill. Instead, following a city inspection of the property, he placed a decoy grill in the exact location where he had previously made a public spectacle of destroying the victim’s property.
None of the staged items intended to maintain Rick Newmann’s outward appearance of charm—such as a swing set, a picnic table set, or the decoy grill—were ever actually used. Notably, the picnic table set was placed in the same area where the tenant had barbecued the evening that Don Klyberg’s property manager, Rick Newmann, stole the victim’s grill.
As a result, the victim has been unable to cook outdoors or engage in any form of outdoor relaxation on the property for which they pay rent—because Rick Newmann continues to target and harass them without restraint.
Confined to their apartment due to a physical disability, the victim—living in an isolated rural town with no access to public transportation—could only reasonably enjoy the outdoors at their own home. However, Rick Newmann’s ongoing harassment made even that impossible. For several months, the victim was forced to keep their curtains and windows closed to prevent Newmann from stalking just outside, within both their eye-line and earshot.
Compounding this, a massive roach infestation rendered the unit virtually uninhabitable. Electronics and furniture were destroyed, kitchen cabinets and laundry facilities became unusable, and the unbearable stench of indoor animal waste—combined with bugs swarming from it—created an atmosphere of unrelenting filth and decay. From December 2024 to April 2025, the victim lived in near-total darkness, overwhelmed by fear, filth, and nonfunction—a day-to-day existence defined by isolation and degradation.
4. Property Destruction as Public Spectacle
After realizing the victim would not play into his manipulative setup, Newmann escalated further by destroying the grill outside her window, turning his aggression into a public spectacle. Over three months, this behavior persisted as an attempt to humiliate, intimidate, and erode the victim’s emotional well-being. Newmann encouraged other tenants to become involved, as well as a mob, made up of visitors to the property to assist in this performance.
5. Grooming Through Emotional Abuse
The cumulative actions were part of a broader grooming strategy. Newmann sought to coerce the victim into a complicit role, not for mutuality but to fabricate the illusion of consent. His long-term goal appeared to be creating a dynamic he could manipulate to justify escalating abuse, including potential sexual violence. A Seventeen Month endeavor.
6. Charming Façade and Deceptive Intentions
Newmann’s “charming” façade—marked by passive-aggressiveness and double-talk—was perhaps his most insidious weapon. It masked his abusive intent, allowing him to manipulate situations and maintain a veneer of respectability while preparing for acts of brute force and dominance.
7. Persistence Reflecting a Pattern
Newmann’s refusal to accept rejection, demonstrated through repeated cycles of harassment and intimidation, suggests a deep-seated history of abusive tendencies. His calculated actions indicate a premeditated strategy for domination, one that prioritizes his control over the victim’s autonomy above all else.
Supporting Evidence and Commentary
- Supporting Evidence: Medical Impact Statement
- Supporting Evidence: Section 4 Title Evidence and Argument; Rick Newmann Male Privilege Ideology
- Supporting Evidence: Section 1 Title 1.3 Negligent Infliction of Emotional Distress
- Supporting Evidence: Section 1 Title 1.4 Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress
- Commentary on Section 9 Title 9.1: Numbers 5 and 6 (Nuance)
- Commentary on Section 9 Title 9.1: Number #18 (Nuance)
Color-Coded In-Article Highlights Guide
Abuse Type / Highlight Purpose | Color | Meaning & Awareness Context |
Sexual Harassment | Teal | Widely recognized color for sexual violence and harassment awareness. |
Emotional Abuse | Yellow | Yellow symbolizes emotional abuse awareness; used in mental health advocacy contexts. |
Domestic Violence (Physical/Coercive) | Purple | Official domestic violence awareness color; symbolizes strength and survival. |
Acts Against Additional Victims | Orange | Distinct from the main victim, orange signals related but secondary harm; used in social justice campaigns. |
Sexual Violence Against Soulaani Women | Grooming | Emotional Abuse | Domestic Abuser | Profile of Abuser | Intimate Non-Personal Abuse
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